HOW TO USE ATTITUDINAL REORIENTATION AND WIN BIG
In everything we do, in every triumph we experience, in every defeat we suffer, and in every great accomplishment we make, our attitude is paramount. These lines by W. C. Fields summarize the important place of attitude thus, “Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.”
The world won’t be tired of hearing about Oprah Winfrey. She moved from abject poverty and childhood abuse to be one of the richest and most celebrated women in the world today. Against all odds, she developed the winning attitude. No wonder she believes that, “The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.”
Attitude is a settled or established way of thinking or feeling about something or someone. It is a tendency or orientation of the mind towards negativity or positivity. In other words, attitude is an inclination to respond either positively or negatively to a person, situation, idea, or object. Every action is a product of some stimulus (such as challenge, incentive, or reward). Our attitude influences our choice of action and how we respond to challenges in life.
Originally in life, every one of us has a mind orientation that is somewhat negative, distorted, and weathered by the vicissitudes of the environment and the economy. The stark realities of poor background, hardship, high cost of living, unemployment, underemployment, and sometimes war, in some conflict-ridden areas, tended to make us, in our growing up years, think troubled and unbalanced thoughts.
Mark Victor Hansen writes that, “Negative attitudes come from thinking negative thoughts over and over until they become part of your subconscious, part of your personality - they become habitual.” He goes on to say that often people don’t even know that they have a negative attitude because it’s been with them for so long.
Negative and mediocre attitude may be why about half of the human race lives below average. In 2018, the World Bank was reported to have said that, economic advances in the world indicate that “while fewer people live in extreme poverty, almost half the world’s population - 3.4 billion people - still struggles to meet basic needs.”
This makes mind reprogramming or attitude reorientation a desideratum for winning big for us. Since failure in life begins in the hearts of men, it is also in the hearts of men we have to build the frontiers of attitude reorientation for the defenses of success.
Thomas C. Corley spent five years studying the good and bad habits of 177 millionaires. He found out that 79 percent of rich people, before they became rich, believed they would be wealthy.
This is where to start in attitude reorientation.
(i) Be a keen lover of information that inspires and motivates. No matter how you look at it, what influences our mind and attitude the most is inspired knowledge.
It is more than mere information. Our streets are full of informed people walking about unemployed. Go for the Scriptures, inspirational and motivational books (both electronic and traditional), MP3s, etc.
(ii) Don’t have an opinion about everything and everyone. Corley also found out that the poor are
not afraid to express their opinions. In his words, “because they don’t read" (98% don’t read to learn), they are expressing opinions not based on facts. And when they expressed opinions about others, often it was very negative.”
They blamed others for their situation; the rich people for their poverty, politicians not doing enough for the poor, and their parents for their failure.
As a matter of fact, they had a lot to say about the government and politicians not doing enough to get them out of poverty.
(iii) You must control your thoughts and emotions. Corley also found out that, 81 percent of the rich made a habit of controlling their thoughts and emotions.